What do you think of this?

I have never received flowers from my husband of any kind. Even though I`ve always hinted and even came straight out and said it. Yet birthday`s go by, holidays etc. and no flowers. So the other day a friend at work got "just because" flowers and yes I became a little jealous but instead of hating on her I called my husband and thanked him for the flowers. He of course said "what flowers" and well I insisted I got flowers from some one. Since that day he has been such a sweetie, he came home early because I was a little sick, he`s been hugging me tight at night but he has not mentioned the flowers or asked if I found out where they came from. Is this a good or a bad thing?

What do you think of this?
It's a wonderful thing hon. You just got your husband to do what half the women in America would give their right arm for....a little love, compassion and someone who listens and "gets it". Truth be told you didn't need the flowers, nor do you. You needed your husband to show you how much he cares...and he's doing just that.





I'm like you, unless one of my children are plucking dandelions out of the yard, I don't get flowers either. When I turned 30, I practically came right out and said how nice it would be if just once he'd send me flowers. And that's when I learned the reason behind it. He took both of my hands and told me that flowers die in a week or two and that the love he has for me is going to be around far longer than that. He said he didn't want our love to resemble something temporary. And then he said he'd send me plants but I kill them all and he didn't want that either.





That was quite a few years ago and now when I see someone in my office getting flowers, I chuckle to myself about the plant comment and then get a little flutter knowing my husband loves me enough to not send me flowers.





It's all how you perceive it. One could say your husband is jealous....but something tells me he's not. Something tells me that love was there all the time, the flowers just brought it out.
Reply:smart lady. congrats :)
Reply:You have to be honest with him. Explain your reasoning for doing this. Regardless, he should still act the way he has been and maybe he'll remember to get you flowers more often.





God bless and best wishes!
Reply:you tell me. you started this whole game. you ask him if it bothers him that you "got flowers from someone else". see what he says, then it's your turn to come clean and have an honest talk with him about how it makes you feel when he doesnt bring you flowers even AFTER you've expressed how you would love for him to do so. if he still doesn't change, i'd seek counseling bc a huge part of being married is learning how to please your partner. i'm sure you do a lot to please him and make his world comfortable. it's not fair to you that he doesn't seek to do the same (especially after you asked him to buy you flowers!). so it could definitely be a deeper problem/issue.
Reply:Oh I think it's a great thing that you can control him through manipulation and fear. Don't those fear-driven hugs feel wonderful? And the insecurity-based attention? That's nice.





Does he do the same to you by nudging you in the mall and whispering, "I wish you had a cute a*ss like hers"? Oh wait if he does it it's terribly evil and wrong because he's an insensitive sonofabitch clod.





If *you* do it, however, well it's okay because doesn't every girl deserve flowers from her man? Notice: he *still* hasn't given you flowers.





Did he give you flowers before you got married? No. He doesn't sound the type. Then you knew he wasn't a flower-giver. Why the hell did you marry him?





There is hope, though, as Marisa Tomei said in 'My Cousin Vinny', "If you don't f*ck it up."





If you really want to get flowers, try persuasion instead of duress. Give him the 1-800-FLOWERS number. Tell him it's anonymous. LIke most insecure little boys trapped in men's bodies, they think if they go into a florist people will think they're "gay". Tell him he can order online at http://www.calyxandcorolla.com/calyx.sto... for the really pricey great stuff or http://www.1800flowers.com for the real good yet not so pricey stuff. And no one will thnk he's gay and if he does it in the next week, he gets 2 free bl*w jobs.





Have fun with it instead of nagging and manipulating and inventing secret admirers.





It doesn't suit you.
Reply:It can be a good thing but only if he realizes that he needs to cherish what he has.
Reply:Well if your goal here was to get a response to a controlled stimulus, then yeah. Way to go, Pavlov! If your goal was to make a positive change in your marriage, then no. You've just resorted to deception. When the truth comes out about the make-believe flowers, you'd better be prepared to do some fast talkin'. Nobody likes being manipulated. Especially husbands.
Reply:it's a good thing.. maybe he realized that if he won't care about you, other will.. nice..
Reply:that is so funny:) but sad at the same time for your husband:(


poor him. he is probably scared of loosing you or just really thinking i need to show her more love, because obviously someone else wants to%26gt; meaning about the non flowers sent to you:) but why would that be a bad thing if he is showing more love towards you?
Reply:He probably thought the ones he sent to his girlfriend got mixed up and sent to you.
Reply:Maybe he doesn't liek to be told how to be romatic. Maybe he thinks, "okay, I'll get flowers but what's next?" or he doesn't like to conform to what ppl think is sweet or romantic. It's the rebel in him. Explain to him your feelings. Like you like that kind of gesture. Just to received them out of the blue. But if he's sweet in other ways, who needs flowers? =)
Reply:I can see you won't be married long unless you grow the hell up. Yeah, nothing brings romance into a relationship like building some mistrust.





Nice move, bonehead.



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