Am I being too sensitive or do I have a case?

When we have a family occassion, like my mom's birthday, mother's day, stuff like that, we buy flowers and a card and address it from all of us (me and my sibilings). We used to pay for it all together, and in the recent years, me and my sister pay for it only because we feel silly going around asking for a few bucks.





Anywya, now that I'm married and my brother is married, the tradition is still the same but my sister takes care of the whole thing and then I offer to pay half the money. The thing is that my brother's wife's name gets put on the card, but my husband's name doesn't get put on the card. So I end up having to buy something seperate too to put his name on it.





This has nothing to do with money, or buying an additional thing. I want to be part of the family tradition and celebrate those special moments with my sibilings. But I feel sensitive about my hubby being left out.





What do you think?

Am I being too sensitive or do I have a case?
You should put your husband's name on the card too. When you sign it, write "Love from X and Y" (whatever your names are). If someone else signs it on your behalf, just casually specify to put your hubby's name on it too. It's not that big a deal.
Reply:ask your sister why she keeps leaving your husbands name off the gifts but she puts your sister-in-law's name. have you only been married a short time? maybe she just needs to be reminded
Reply:Don't offer to pay any more. Specifically tell your sister that if your husband's name does not go on it then the brother's wife's name should not either.


If she argues that then just tell her, "Fine, if you don't consider MY husband part of the family, then don't put my name on there. I'll buy her something myself."
Reply:Don't you just love family squabbles? This is petty and trivial and shouldn't even be a concern but...there it is. *sigh*





I agree with other responders, say you want your husband's name on the card and if that is rejected, start your own tradition of sending a separate card from just you and him!
Reply:Yes, ask that your husband's name be put on the card. If it's from all of you - it should be from ALL of you.





This is especially true if YOU are paying for half of it and doubly especially true if your Brother is sliding by.
Reply:Maybe it's time to start a new tradition with each family giving something from their own family unit. I'm sure any children of yours and your siblings will eventually want to be included in the gift giving, so starting a new tradition now would save any confusion and hard feelings in the future.





We've had a similar problem in my family and it has worked out better for everyone involved to just buy separately.
Reply:I feel u should ask ur brother that how ur wife is our family like that my husband is also in the same family. So we should write everybody's name.
Reply:The card should either be from each sibling %26amp; spouse





or





from only the siblings.
Reply:I would be pissed. His name absolutely should be on that card. Or brother's wife's name off of it. If they give you a hard time about it I would just quit going in with them on gifts. You and your husband select something together and give it to Mom.
Reply:I say buy something from just you and the husband and don't pitch in for your brother's gift anymore. Tell him that you and your husband have decided to start that tradition (a gift only from the "child" and spouse) since you all have your own families now. If he still insists on putting your name on his stuff, well, now you are getting credit for 2 gifts... and you didn't even have to pay for one. *shrugs* He'll get the hint sooner or later.





Brothers can be silly. Sometimes they just need a gentle hint.
Reply:Buy something from both yourself and your husband. Don't go in on a gift with the others.
Reply:Ask for the money or get over it. This is not worth fighting over, life is too short.



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