Is this mind games my ex is playing and how would you suggest I deal maybe play dirty with her?

experts please? I had a two year relationship with a 24-year old. I'm 30. She did treat me like !@#$%^%26amp;%26amp;*() for the last year of the relationship, and I didnt do anything but treat her like the queen I know she is. I gave her a choice of ending the relationship and she took the bait because I knew something was up. She tried to change me into her own fantasy person, which I chewed her out on. After we broke up, she found a new boyfriend within 3 weeks. She has said to my friends that this dude, who is 24 is a lot more mature than I am. I am assuming and know that she had him on the side. Three times in four weeks after our breakup. She had called me to see if just to check up on me (I'm not a child) once, and to see if I was ready to talk to her and become friends (all three times). I told her "Mary Grace I will call you when I'M ready". I wrote her a letter telling her I need space and that I still care for her. Now she had an upcoming b-day, turned 25. Now I'm not going to be an @$$hole and forget about her b-day. But I'm doing this as a friend. So what I did was I bought her a half dozen roses the day before, had it sent to her b-day place the day of (this was yesterday, by the florist), where she was holding her b-day party (3 yellow, 2 pink, and 2 peach) gave her call on her cell phone (the night before her party), and this is what I said to her in a very smooth manner (I'm assuming that she listened to it and maybe ignored it)





"Hey its Erwin,


listen, i know that we havent spoken in the last three weeks, and that I told you that I will talk to you and call you when I'm ready. And despite what you have done to me in the past, I HAVE NEVER AND WILL NEVER HATE YOU. And I know you got a birthday coming up on Tuesday, so I just wanna wish you a happy and safe 25th bday. I'll tell you what, perhaps we can call each other some time, As a matter of fact why don't we talk sometime later this week. You have a goodnight. Bye!"








As she received the flowers, she was very receptive to it, by texting me, "Thank you so much for the flowers, they are very pretty". I responded. "You're very welcome. Happy 25th". Then she proceeds to text me the next day by saying "I don't know how awkward this will be 4 u seeing me with someone else, but you're more than welcome to join me, my new bf, and my family for my birthday dinner." I simply responded, "Listen I'm having dinner with an old friend right now. Just have a wonderful dinner, okay? MAYBE we'll talk later" Her response, "Its okay, just thought I'd ask anyway, have fun". What was the purpose of her inviting me over for her b-day dinner? Calling me, three time in four weeks, to see if she wanted to be friends and to check up on me?, inviting me over for her birthday dinner. What was the purpose of her doing this, to rub everything in my face? Is she trying to play mind games w/ me? And if so, how do I go about playing dirty mind games w/ her or should I even do so? Either way, had I went, she would have won. And since I didn't go, she still won.

Is this mind games my ex is playing and how would you suggest I deal maybe play dirty with her?
She's not trying to play games with you. She feels bad about dumping you and she thinks you're suffering and she thinks that by telling you this stuff and inviting you over she will make you feel better.





She will keep pulling you back and forth like this because she doesn't know what else to do and she probably thinks that cutting all ties with you will make you kill yourself or something.





Do yourself and her a favor and YOU be the one to cut the ties with her. She's not calling you and inviting you over because she likes you and wants to spend time with you, she's only doing it out of guilt.





Go find a new girl who will appreciate you. Good luck.
Reply:I have to be honest. I think she was trying to play games with you by inviting u to have dinner with her and her new boyfriend. What the Hell? That was crazy. You made the right decision by not going. Also, you handled it in a very mature way. My advice to you is to do nothing. Let her continue to play her games by herself. She will eventually get tired. N when she does, she will either go on or come back to you trying to reconcile. Also, she is only using the other guy as a rebound to try to get over u and move on. So, don't play any games with her. This will let her know that u are mature, unlike her and that she is not worth your time. Trust me, u will win this way.
Reply:Hon just leave her alone... it will be worth a lot less drama to you... you are the mature one and need to walk away.





I am 25 and think she is acting like a fool
Reply:i think you won this game eitherways.





she let a great guy go and there is no revenge needed.





im sure she wants to get you back and is mentally comparing you with her other boyfriend...she seems to have a bit of pride as well...





just let her be and move on..



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