Does she really need space or is she letting me down easy?

Was seeing a girl for a month. Think she got out of a few relationships in succession and soon started dating me. We went fast and think she got scared. She said the timing wasn't right and that it would be better in a few months so she needed space/time to herself, hang with her friends, (and probably date some). I asked if we could still hang out some and she said yes, b/c I make her laugh. We communicated well, she seemed relieved, and we kissed at the end of the night. So, we hung out some a week 1/2 later with others too and then nearly 3 weeks ago I texted her and she texted back in 20 mins. Since then, I haven't called/texted/emailed her and she hasn't either. I want to give her space and have been playing it cool but really care about her and it's driving me mad! Do I wait until she gets in touch with me and if not, let it go? Do I call her in a week or two? Do I wait to hear from her and if not, call her on her birthday in a little over a month or email/send her flowers?

Does she really need space or is she letting me down easy?
It's nice you are being sensitive, but she could be waiting for traditional contacts. She was showing an interest in you, so I would check that out if you want to. However, the space and timing sound like an exit strategy to me.





It may be that she is/was interested, but is not ready to go for it. She may be dealing with an ex and still upset.





Calling her?. It couldn't hurt to call and check on how she is doing. Certainly a happy birthday call would cheer her up. I'd maintain contact, just make sure you respect her when she doesn't feel like talking.





When she is feeling better, she'll remember how nice you've been to her and start looking there. Just don't smother her in the mean-time.
Reply:Sounds like this girl is going through somewhat of an emotional roller coaster. Sounds like she has no idea what she wants. Give her some space. She'll come around when she needs too. After a while try again, and see what happens. First, though, respect her and give her the space she obviously needs.
Reply:I would say no to the flowers. That seems like it would put pressure on an already sensitive relationship. My opinion is that sending a weekly email or text message shows you still care about her, but are NOT invading her space. It also leaves communication open so that she can let you know if she has changed her mind and wants to be with you more often.



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