Girlfriend Broke Up With me in June after 4 Years together, NEED ADVICE!!?

My girlfriend decided to cut off our relationship in June and break up with me after being together 4 years because she said she needed to find herself in life. Needless to say, I loved this girl more than anything, and I thought she was madly in love with me and still am very very upset over this. I have not heard from her since November . I started Match.com and in weekly therapy about two months ago, I have been on a few good dates and many bad ones. I honestly miss my ex SO MUCH. But it is so hard for me, she completely phased me out of her life. How can I help myself to move on. In the past , the very few times I tried to contact her, were never responded to. And when I mean very few, I mean, I called her 2 times since September. i sent her flowers for her birthday on January 16th. . My mother tells me to let her miss me, but it has been 5 months. Do you think I will ever hear from her ever again? I feel like I lost the best thing that ever happened to mr

Girlfriend Broke Up With me in June after 4 Years together, NEED ADVICE!!?
I don’t know you personally so I can’t really say much. So, this is just a guess of what one of the reasons was that she left you. If I was going out with a guy for 4 years, and we were still not married or engaged to be married, I would give up on that relationship. Did you ever think that could have been a reason? She may have been madly in love with you, but I was always taught that a stalemate relationship isn’t one worth staying in. In a girl’s mind, a guy that’s staying with you for years and isn’t making any kind of serious commitment, it’s like he’s having his cake and eating it too. Maybe she was just looking for something i.e someone different.





I’m not saying this out of ignorance, I left boyfriend of 3 years saying that same excuse “I need to find myself”. But what I really meant was “I’m tired of just being your 'girlfriend', if this isn’t going to go any farther than this I would rather find a relationship that will”. To be honest, I didn’t tell him the truth because I was too much of a coward and didn’t want to seem needy. Sadly, he never did figure it out, even after two years later when I was getting married to another guy.





My advice would be to make sure that you talk to her soon, do whatever it takes to get her to talk to you, and find out the REAL reason why she left you; the excuse “I need to find myself” is always just a cover. As soon as you find the reason maybe you either find a way to get back with her, or start healing. Stay strong, time has a way of making things easier.
Reply:I am in a similar situation, very similar. Try this, make a list of all of the traits she had that made you love her the way you did. Then ask yourself, are these traits exclusive to her? For example, is she the only woman that is sweet, is caring, likes to have fun, a good kisser, etc. Obviously, there are plenty of woman out there that have the traits you love. I can tell you, it has taken me a long time to get over my ex and this exercise really helped. You have to accept that she has moved on and likely isnt coming back, period. As painful as that is, thats likely a fact. You will meet someone else when you least expect it that you will love more than her. She wasnt the right one, rather you think so or not, or this wouldnt have happened.
Reply:if she doesn't love you anymore, leave it alone. you're wasting your time. I'm sure that ur a wonderful man and you can probably get into a great relationship by yourself. you don't need to keep on worrying about what your old girlfriend is doing now, etc. she cut you out of her life, and its okay if you don't want to cut her out of your life. think about her every once in a while, and when it gets so hard that you can't bear it, go the olf fashioned way, and grab a comfort food. then, go to the gym and work off all of that pain you feel. trust me it works. i would be too scared to gain wait to eat, so i would go to the gym, work my *** off, and then come back a new person. that way, you can get over your woman (* trust me it works) and you can get a newly toned body also. i don't think you have to get a personal trainer, you can just go there and start working on cardio( running, etc.) don't worry, if she let you go, then she doesn't know what she's missing out in life.



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